Sunday, May 31, 2009

THis weekend was GREAT

i had the best weekend with my poots. that one on one time is the BEST. this weekend devins best friend was in from out of town so they pretty much spent it together. there was some drama between devin and i on thursday but thats to be left alone. i do really see him changing for the better. and i greatly appreciate it. and its not even that he is TERRIBLE, just some things need to change. some immaturity problems and all. so today i learned to SPEAK things into existance. since we were created in the image of god and while we are not as powerful as he is, we have certain traits he does. while he was creating the universe, the bible says tha he SPOKE and things came into existance. meaning, god "walked" into darkness and say "let there be light" and light came about. so the idea is that the same can be said of us. if we , instead of CONSTANTLY speaking to our mates, with no chnage in thier behavior, just take it to Jehovah in prayer and speak things that bother us into existance, then it will come to fruation. ex: your mate leaves his stuff all over the house, your relationship is just not what it needs to be ect. INSTEAD of constantly talking to him (because men are not built to we say aloud "jehovah please let him pick up his stuff" "he WILL take the trashout without me asking" and take to god in prayer then it will happen. he will change. i'll give it a try. i believe in it.
but yesturday i did sooo much with poots. and i was able to accomplish so much. i paid the BGE bill. which i didnt think i would be able to, but i know jehovah made it possible. i got a oil change. had breakfast with poots, and cleaned my ENTIRE house. but today i am so sore. lol. today we had dinner at ms. paula's house.
in my life right now, i am working on moving past people, meaning i am working ERNESTLY at not allowing people to have the power to control my mood, my happiness, or add drama to my life. i pray and talk to jehovah mainly. i need to work on more affirmations like "i am going to my place of worship" "i am accomplishing my goals" "i am at peace and happy" "i am rely on you jehovah" and "i praise you my heavenly father"

Thursday, May 28, 2009

Some Encouarging Scriptures

My Child,

You may not know me,
but I know everything about you.
Psalm 139:1

I know when you sit down and when you rise up.
Psalm 139:2

I am familiar with all your ways.
Psalm 139:3

Even the very hairs on your head are numbered.
Matthew 10:29-31

For you were made in my image.
Genesis 1:27

In me you live and move and have your being.
Acts 17:28

For you are my offspring.
Acts 17:28

I knew you even before you were conceived.
Jeremiah 1:4-5

I chose you when I planned creation.
Ephesians 1:11-12

You were not a mistake,
for all your days are written in my book.
Psalm 139:15-16

I determined the exact time of your birth
and where you would live.
Acts 17:26

You are fearfully and wonderfully made.
Psalm 139:14

I knit you together in your mother's womb.
Psalm 139:13

And brought you forth on the day you were born.
Psalm 71:6

I have been misrepresented
by those who don't know me.
John 8:41-44

I am not distant and angry,
but am the complete expression of love.
1 John 4:16

And it is my desire to lavish my love on you.
1 John 3:1

Simply because you are my child
and I am your Father.
1 John 3:1

I offer you more than your earthly father ever could.
Matthew 7:11

For I am the perfect father.
Matthew 5:48

Every good gift that you receive comes from my hand.
James 1:17

For I am your provider and I meet all your needs.
Matthew 6:31-33

My plan for your future has always been filled with hope.
Jeremiah 29:11

Because I love you with an everlasting love.
Jeremiah 31:3

My thoughts toward you are countless
as the sand on the seashore.
Psalms 139:17-18

And I rejoice over you with singing.
Zephaniah 3:17

I will never stop doing good to you.
Jeremiah 32:40

For you are my treasured possession.
Exodus 19:5

I desire to establish you
with all my heart and all my soul.
Jeremiah 32:41

And I want to show you great and marvelous things.
Jeremiah 33:3

If you seek me with all your heart,
you will find me.
Deuteronomy 4:29

Delight in me and I will give you
the desires of your heart.
Psalm 37:4

For it is I who gave you those desires.
Philippians 2:13

I am able to do more for you
than you could possibly imagine.
Ephesians 3:20

For I am your greatest encourager.
2 Thessalonians 2:16-17

I am also the Father who comforts you
in all your troubles.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4

When you are brokenhearted,
I am close to you.
Psalm 34:18

As a shepherd carries a lamb,
I have carried you close to my heart.
Isaiah 40:11

One day I will wipe away
every tear from your eyes.
Revelation 21:3-4

And I'll take away all the pain
you have suffered on this earth.
Revelation 21:3-4

I am your Father, and I love you
even as I love my son, Jesus.
John 17:23

For in Jesus, my love for you is revealed.
John 17:26

He is the exact representation of my being.
Hebrews 1:3

He came to demonstrate that I am for you,
not against you.
Romans 8:31

And to tell you that I am not counting your sins.
2 Corinthians 5:18-19

Jesus died so that you and I could be reconciled.
2 Corinthians 5:18-19

His death was the ultimate expression
of my love for you.
1 John 4:10

I gave up everything I loved
that I might gain your love.
Romans 8:31-32

If you receive the gift of my son Jesus,
you receive me.
1 John 2:23

And nothing will ever separate you
from my love again.
Romans 8:38-39

Come home and I'll throw the biggest party
heaven has ever seen.
Luke 15:7

I have always been Father,
and will always be Father.
Ephesians 3:14-15

My question is…
Will you be my child?
John 1:12-13

I am waiting for you.
Luke 15:11-32

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

this friday

we were invited to 6 flags. but beings though we are in the finacial situation we are in i dont feel i will have the money to go. and i dont know who would watch kira. but devin's best friend offered to pay for him. and i feel some kindda way about it. i dont want him to go without me. i feel i deserve to go and have fun. how come he gotta have a friend that would pay for him and i aint got one that would pay for me? i am pouting and being sooo wrong. i KNOW. but its how i feel. i wish he would have asked if his friend could pay for me too. but i know how awkward that can be. plus i dont want him going and being around all the pretty half naked women without me. stuff like tis brings out my insecurities
i wish i could tell him i feel about it. but i afriad, that if i do talk to him about it, he'll just latch on to me being insecure and make me feel like shit for that. i could hear him now "you just dont want me to go because youre insecure!...well, you ARE arent you?" instead of soothing my insecurities and helping me get past it.

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Havnt really

had much to write this week. thats not to say there hasnt been any drama (it wouldnt be MY LIFE if it werent any drama) but i have refrained from writting about it. it would just envoke too many angry feelings, and emotions im just not trying to revisit. as a matter of fact that is my goal. to let go of my angry feelings, and eliminate the drama out of my life. THIS ENTIRE blog had been one drama filled story afetr another and i am sooo flippin tired of it. so i havnt talked much to people. i have quite literally shut down emotionally. to the point where im not talking to any one. i am afraid to talk to anyone. because if i talk, i let them in, i become vonerable. there is a chance they can hurt me or i can hurt them. and that just starts drama. i dont talk to devin because whe i tell him how i feel or how he has hurt me, he doesnt adress the issue he just jumps to the defense or misundestanding me, or making me feel i dont have a reason to feel how i do. i have been talking for so long and being around people, and its ALWAYS nothing but drama. kieth decided he was gonna tell me about myself and pull my card on a few isses. and i'll admitt, it hurt comming from him, it hurt period because i felt he and his brother had me all wrong. so i just dont say anything to him or devin. i stay to myself. i cant wait for him to leave. i cant fuckin wait!! but i took what he said and i paid it some mind. i just thought maybe this is gods way of revealing some things about myself and my life i need to adjust and there was some truth to what he said. i just didnt feel people in glass houses should throw stones. he got on my nerves soooo bad this past week . him and devin. i have two people to deal with now. two mouths to hear, two opinions to hear. its annoying. i KNOW he said that stuff to darnell not JUST because he was defending his brother, but to get back at me. there was a hidge of malice for me in his sending darnell a message. and all he said is "you get mad at us for doing the same things you do." they completely miss my point. and all they say is "ur a hypocrit....blah , blah, blah" and get these ideas in thier mind that im this negative, nagging, drama filled, hypocrit ect ect ect.yes they TOLD me how they feel i am. they get on my fuckin nerves, and im tired of dealing with BOTH. i can deal with one, but not BOTH.
people in general get on my nerves and im not dealing with them ANY more. or at least not for a while. men, women, niether. i just want to spend this time, staying to myself and developing my relationship with jehovah. i pray more during my days now. i am still struggling with things. but i have been meditating also. meditating on my happiness. telling myself that i am happpy.

Monday, May 18, 2009


i want to talk to jehovah about EVERYTHING throug out my life. THrough out my DAY. i want to have him in my constant thoughts. i know i can just talk to him. as i would a respected friend. so i will. short prayers through out my day "you are with me" "i recieve you r grace"...ect. Prayer is the most important thing in life. it is the key and glue to your relationship with jehovah. i know this. my life is always in a uproar. but i read" the deepest level of worship is praising in dpite of pain, thanking god during a trial, trusting him when tempted, surrendering while suffering, and loving him when he seems distant." and this is exactly what i dont do!! when things get bad for me in my life i "fall off" from prayer. when i begin to realize things in my life i dont want to change , when the light become brighter i "fall off". i cant do that ANY MORE!! this is exactly what satan wants. he wants me to stop BECAUSE the truth hurts. i cant i will pray about not wanting to pray. i will pray about not remembering to pray. i will put post it notes around my house and in my hair, set my alarm to REMIND me to pray. i will pray no matter what. no matter how badly it hurts. i will be honest in my prayers. i will TELL jehovah that i KNOW i dont love him the WAY I SHOULD. BUT I WANT TO, i WANT HIM. i will be honest about not wanting to do what he asks, but i will pray for the strength to. i will FORCE myself to pray through my day. because the more i do it, the more i will want to do it, the more i will benefit from it. i dont know why i think it logical to not pray when things are bad. thats when i need jehovah the most. thats when satan is UP my spine. putting thoughts of incompitense in my mind.

Sunday, May 17, 2009

My Birthday was This Past Friday (May15th)

it was nice. mrs. paula bought me the purpose driven life book and journal. i love it. and i love her for getting it for me. im in exodus now with my bible reading. tonight i will finnish it up and move on th leviticus. devin told me that as soon as he starts this job, he will pay for me to start school. SOOO EXCITED. other then that not much going on in my life.

Thursday, May 14, 2009


50 ways to stay calm, healthy & strong in stressful times: The world may seem to be falling apart, but keeping your life together may not be as hard as you think
Shape , Jan, 2002

by Angela Hynes
To one degree or another, painful emotions - anger, grief, frustration and fear - have permeated, even dominated, our lives. If anything good can come from these events, it will be a greater awareness of valuing the positive: our relationships, meaningful experiences, good health and simple pleasures. Here are 50 small ways to start doing that.

connect with others

1. Choose live experiences. See plays, not movies; listen to bands instead of CDs; play charades instead of video games.

2. Learn about other cultures through food. (Plus, chicken breast takes on a new life when cooked in a tandoor oven at an Indian restaurant.)

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3. Reconnect with long-lost friends. Track them down at

4. Make someone else's day. Throw her a surprise party or do an unexpected favor.

5. Create a signature dish. Become expert at cooking one fabulous lowfat meal and share it regularly with friends.

6. Get personal. E-mail is easy, but phone calls, cards and handwritten notes are much friendlier.

7. Volunteer time and talents. You'll be helping the community, and as a fringe benefit you'll feel good about yourself.

8. Become a mentor. Share your knowledge and skills to give someone a leg up.

create meaning and mindfulness

9. Moonlight. If you don't have your dream job, seek meaning and joy from a sideline. Want to teach yoga? Get certified and lead weekend classes. Love antiques? Try trading on

10. Just do it. If you've been putting off writing a short story or training to hike the Appalachian Trail, what are you waiting for?

11. Get a hobby. Rekindle a childhood passion you've sidelined for lack of time.

12. Sign up for a charity run/walk. You'll help a good cause, meet new people and enjoy a sense of purpose.

13. Enrich your mind. Take a night class in a subject that has nothing to do with your job. Or, learn a new language.

14. Make mealtimes mindful. Decorate the table with candles and flowers, play music, say grace or a personal affirmation and eat consciously.

15. Cultivate your spirit. Whether you look for it in a church or out in nature, find something that nourishes your soul.

stay well and strong

16. Focus on what you can control. Instead of obsessing about terrorism, adopt life- and health-saving behaviors: Quit smoking, always wear your seat belt, install smoke alarms, apply sun-screen every day and, if appropriate, use condoms.

17. Get in the best shape of your life, whether you're 23 or 73. Being fit and feeling good in your body is mentally and emotionally uplifting.

18. Get eight to nine hours of sleep. See how restored you feel, especially when you're stressed.

19. Add some crunch to your lunch. The Harvard Nurses' Health Study showed that women who ate more than 5 ounces of nuts a week lowered their risk of heart disease.

20. Have a daily soy shake for all kinds of health benefits. Blend 4 ounces of lowfat tofu with half a banana, frozen berries and fruit juice.

21. Make that health appointment. Due for a teeth cleaning? A mammogram?

22. Mark your calendar. Highlight the days you should do a breast self-exam.

23. Check your office chair and lighting. Even small adjustments can make for fewer muscle aches and less eyestrain and fatigue.

24. Flush all expired medications. Restock your first-aid kit if necessary.

refresh your routines

25. Switch from instant to coarse oatmeal. It's tastier and has more fiber. Soak it overnight to reduce cooking time from 30 minutes to eight. For a creamier texture and a dairy serving, soak it in skim milk.

26. Rent a video of a workout method you haven't tried. It could spark your interest in a new activity, like tai chi or Pilates. Or, take an intro class.

27. Spring for a couple of sessions with a personal trainer. He or she can help you reset your short- and long-term fitness goals.

28. Cook grains in nonfat chicken or vegetable broth. You'll add flavor but not fat to rice, couscous and the like.

29. Take your workouts outside if you usually exercise in a gym. You will be energized and inspired by how Mother Nature constantly reinvents herself, even in a city park.

30. Unclutter your environment by having a yard sale. Use the money you make to spruce up your home or give it to charity.

31. Clean out your food cupboards. Check expiration dates, toss stale packages, read labels and weed out nutritional losers. Restock with fresh, healthful foods.

32. Treat yourself to a new fitness accessory, such as a pedometer. You'll be eager to try it out and will find the feedback motivating.

find simple pleasures

33. Dance for joy. Gyms are getting creative with classes like Jock Ballet and bhangra, an Indian dance form.

34. Plan your next vacation. The anticipation - checking out guidebooks and brochures, routes, activities - will infuse you with excitement.

35. Find an activity you love to do purely for fun - no reps, no goals, no timing. Just splash around in water or play ball like a kid.

36. Do something you've never done before. Paddle a canoe or go fishing.

37. Dye last year's T-shirts and tank tops. You'll renew your wardrobe and feel creative doing it.

38. Experiment with gourmet vinegars; they're as varied as wines. Splashed on salads and steamed veggies or used as a marinade, they add nonfat flavor.

39. Buy fruits and vegetables from farmers markets or pick-your-own farms. The flavor is sweeter and fresher than most store-bought produce.

40. Scent your home with an energizing aromatherapy oil. Try rosemary, lemongrass or peppermint.

41. Grow a pot of basil on a sunny windowsill. It looks, smells and tastes great.

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relax and renew yourself

42. Give and receive massages. They are great tension relievers.

43. Create a Friday-night ritual. It will help you decompress and establish boundaries between work and play.

44. Renew your rituals periodically. They lose their luster with repetition.

45. Venture out into nature. If the Discovery Channel is your idea of experiencing it, try the real thing. Go outside, gaze at the stars or plant something.

46. Get a daily dose of "vitamin H" - humor, that is. Subscribe to an e-mail joke-a-day service; send a funny greeting card to a friend.

47. Enjoy get-togethers with friends more often. It's a cheap and wonderfully effective buffer for stress.

48. Move your body. Exercise is a natural pacifier. Whether intense or gentle, indoors or outside, regular workouts can soothe your soul.

49. Listen to instrumental music to relax. It engages the right brain. Once you introduce lyrics, the left brain becomes involved and you start thinking about the words.

50. Get near water as often as possible. You'll find it calming. Sit on a beach, by a river or lake or buy a desktop fountain.
Sometimes situations do not go as expected. A good day may turn bad, everything may suddenly go wrong. Needless to say, it’s difficult to stay calm in such situations. We tend to become confused, panic or even heated by anger. That won’t help you much to get out of the situation though. Handling a bad situation in such condition will just make it worse; you are more likely to make mistakes. That’s why it’s important to stay calm. By staying calm, you will be able to judge the situation wisely and take the appropriate actions.

But how do you stay calm when the situation goes bad? How do you calm your nerves while the world around you is falling down? I believe there are some simple things you can do. Here are 26 tips ; pick the ones that work for you:

Take a deep breath.
Do nothing for 5 minutes.
Take a nap.
Take a shower.
Listen to comforting music.
Listen to natural sounds.
Play music.
Share to a positive friend.
Ask “What’s the next action?” and focus on only that one thing.
Go to nature (mountain, beach, etc.).
Ride a bike.
Talk about other topics.
Drink a bottle of water.
Play games (just for a while!).
Go eat with someone who is not part of the situation.
Read spiritual texts.
Listen to spiritual audio programs.
Unplug the Internet.
Take a cup of coffee.
Say to yourself, “This situation is not as bad as it looks. Many people have handled situations worse than this successfully.”
Be grateful for what you still have (instead of looking at what you don’t have).
Be grateful for what you can learn from the situation.
Take a walk around a park.
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Wednesday, May 13, 2009

goals 4/12-5/12

i set some goals for myself for this past month. not only did i NOT accomplish them i FAILED miserablely. the only thing i did was my bible reading pretty continuously. but i didnt make my meetings.
my goals were:
1. Make EVERY meeting for one month ( i missed the whole month i believe)
2.pray daily (i did it spairingly)
3. exercise daily( missed the whole month)
4. read bible daily (i kept with this fairly well. i didnt read my ASSIGNED reading but i did read a lil daily)
5. Save money (nope)

so this month they are my goals again. from 5/13-6/13

so far today i have read my bible
exercised, and prayed

i have never

been this consistant with doing my bible reading. and right now in my life all i want to focuse on is doing just THAT. i ONLY want BIBLE study aids and to read the BIBLE. i want NOTHING religious. i need to get my own thoughts together. i am quit confused about some things and i need to get it together. things like rather or not i am wanting to become involved with any particular religion. i am 110% sure of one thing in my life right now. that is: that i BELIEVE in god. i believe his name is jehovah. i believe in the angels, i believe in satan and his deamons. EVERYTHING eles (literally ) is up in the air. and i have NEVER felt this way before. i feel good and bad. right and wrong. but i will continue searching for my answers. i am scared, and nervous all at the same time. afraid of what i may find out about myself and what i need to change. its like, the deeper i get into my study of the bible the more i see needs changing in my life and i dont like it. i mean, i LIKE it, but i find it hard to change. and when u KNOW something and you arent changing it naggs at you. i am keeping it 100 with my readers and myself. keeping it real: the more i read the bible, the more it reveals truths and MYSELF and the more i REALIZE the more i cower at its power. it makes me want to put it down because WHAT am i DOING to BE RIGHT. i will not beat myself up. i am doing right but perservering in prayer and continueing to push through all of this. right now, i just want to focus on reading it and gaining knowledge and insite on what IT says.

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

juat writting

today i took poots to the park and read to her. she has moved on FINALLY from her starter dvd on YOUR BABY CAN READ to volume 1 DVD. we had fun at the park. lol. i put her sweater on, and packed snacks. i just dont have a camera right now. i miss not being able to take picturedof her. i will get one this weekend from walmart. speaking of this weekend. guess whats comming up this 24th birthday. i feel good to have come to this point in my life. but i feel so far from where i need to be. yes i had a BEAUTIFUL baby this past year, but personally i feel unfufuilled. i will feel so much better once i start school and finnish it. once i get reinstated. i feel like i have wasted my entire youth on laziness and stupidity. i hope friday isnt a day of regret and depression.

Stuff I Want

Books from :
scarves from:
Hair butters:
Crunchless abs:
Body Shaper:

i have never ordered anything from the internet before but these things have had my eye for some time now. cant wait to get it.

i have been so tired lately

i havnt been able to write alhtough i have greatly wanted to. but not too much is new in my neck of the woods. i havnt completely fallen off of my bible reading but i havnt done all that i could and should do. i havnt been to my meetings niether. i dont know what wrong with me. its like i'll start off sooo good then i'll fall into this slump. Darnell has been calling me again lately. inside i wish he would leave me alone. but i dont wanna be rude to him when it seems he is going through a lot. but in all actuality he just annoys the hell outta me. hes sooo needy and funny looking. that is one man i TRULY regret sleeping with. i hope poots never has regrets about her sex life when she grows up. i hope she makes wise decisions and not desprate ones.

Thursday, May 7, 2009

5 myths about drinking water

Five Myths About Drinking Water
by Allison Aubrey

Morning Edition, April 3, 2008 · Is bottled water better for you than tap? Or should you choose vitamin-enriched water over sparkling? Experts say, skip it all. None of these products are likely to make you any healthier. Below, we look at five major myths about the benefits of drinking water.

But first, how do you know if you're drinking enough water? Experts say there's an easy way to judge. If you're not thirsty, you're fluid intake is likely "just right."

Myth No. 1: Drink Eight Glasses Each Day

Scientists say there's no clear health benefit to chugging or even sipping water all day. So where does the standard advice of drinking eight glasses each day come from? "Nobody really knows," says Dr. Stanley Goldfarb, a kidney expert at the University of Pennsylvania.

Myth No. 2: Drinking Lots of Water Helps Clear Out Toxins

The kidneys filter toxins from our bloodstreams. Then the toxins clear through the urine. The question is, does drinking extra water each day improve the function of the kidneys?

"No," says Goldfarb. "In fact, drinking large amounts of water surprisingly tends to reduce the kidney's ability to function as a filter. It's a subtle decline, but definite."

Myth No. 3: Lots of Water Equals Healthier Skin

The body is already 60 percent water. So, if you take a 200-pound man, he's 120 pounds of water.

Adding a few extra glasses of water each day has limited effect. "It's such a tiny part of what's in the body," says Goldfarb. "It's very unlikely that one's getting any benefit." His full editorial is published in the current issue of the Journal of the American Society of Nephrology.

One study published in 2007 on the cosmetic benefit of drinking water suggests that 500 ml of water increases capillary blood flow in the skin. "But it's unclear whether these changes are clinically significant," says Goldfarb.

Myth No. 4: Drinking Extra Water Leads to Weight Loss

A more accurate statement may be: Drinking water is a helpful tool for dieters.

"Water is a great strategy for dieters because it has no calories," says Madeline Fernstrom of the University of Pittsburgh. "So you can keep your mouth busy without food and get the sense of satisfaction."

But water is not magical, she adds. Other zero-calorie options such as diet sodas are fine, too.

Myth No. 5: It's Easy to Get Dehydrated During a Workout

Dehydration sets in when a person has lost 2 percent of his or her body weight. So for a 200-pound man, this means losing 4 pounds of water.

Marathon runners, bikers and hikers all need to recognize the signs of dehydration. "It is also obvious that individuals in hot, dry climates have increased need for water," says Goldfarb.

The American College of Sports Medicine recommends that athletes drink 16 ounces of fluids a couple of hours before starting sports practice.

But for a stroll in the park, no water bottle is necessary. Goldfarb's advice: Just drink when you're thirsty.

IDK if i believe this completely. im gonna need to see more proof of water not being so important.

Wednesday, May 6, 2009


Help develop your child's writing skills
Reviewed by the BabyCenter Medical Advisory Board

How can I help my toddler develop his writing skills?

How can I help my toddler develop his writing skills?
As with any of your child's new skills, your job is to provide encouragement and support — and, in this case, supplies. As early as his first birthday, be sure to have crayons and paper or coloring books on hand for when he starts showing an interest in scribbling. (Skip pens and pencils until he's older — they're much sharper than crayons and could hurt your toddler if he fell on them or accidentally poked himself in the face.) Let him practice scribbling as often as he likes, but take breaks if he gets frustrated.

Teach your child to limit his artistic endeavors to the piece of paper in front of him, although no matter how many times you tell him not to, he's bound to find the wallpaper (or the floor, or your brand-new paperback) irresistible. So be prepared to clean up after him a few times; to that end, invest in washable crayons. Try not to let him eat his supplies, although getting a little burnt sienna in his system at some point is practically inevitable — and won't do any lasting harm.

When it comes to writing actual letters, the most important thing you can do is let your child learn at his own pace. "It's all too easy to overdo teaching letters and numbers," says T. Berry Brazelton in his book Touchpoints. "To me, the timing is not as important as the child's own desire to learn. Be sure the idea of learning these things is coming from him. It's so easy to push early learning on a child who is compliant at this age. But it does more harm than good." Preschoolers who are forced to read and write before they're ready can do it and will often seem to have an edge over their kindergarten classmates. But studies have found that they lose that advantage as they get older and realize they can't apply the same memorizing techniques they used for reading and writing to more complex learning.

Finally, be sure to talk to and read to your child as much as possible. The more language he hears, the more his brain will grow and develop, which will benefit all of his communication skills — including writing — in the long run

HOw To Raise A Reader

How to raise a reader
by Mary VanClay
Reviewed by the BabyCenter Medical Advisory Board
Last updated: June 2006

It's never too early to steer your child toward books. But for toddlers, the goal is not to make sure they can read the classics before they're out of preschool. "The phrase to remember is 'developmentally appropriate,'" says Roni Leiderman, associate dean of the Family Center at Nova Southeastern University in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. "Parents often come to me wanting to push academics too much, too fast, too soon. In fact, children learn best through play. Make reading a joyous event for them."

There are many developmentally appropriate — and fun — ways to help your little one learn to love books and stories. And, surprisingly, not all of them involve sitting down with an actual book.

Use books to bond
"It's not about reading the words," says Leiderman. "At this age it's about learning to love the interaction with Mom, Dad, or a caretaker." When your child sits in your lap as you read aloud, she doesn't just enjoy books, she also enjoys the security of your undivided attention.

Set up a ritual
A regular reading time establishes a calming routine young children love — that's why the bedtime story is a time-honored tradition. But don't forget that many other daily events also provide good reading opportunities. Once in a while try establishing a new ritual with a breakfast story, a bathtub story, a just-home-from-daycare story. Some toddlers (and older children) who are heavy sleepers are much better able to face the day when their parents "read them awake" rather than hustle them out of bed.

Choose appropriate books
Toddlers love board books, bathtub books, and pop-up books — any type they can hold easily and manipulate themselves. They love stories accompanied by bright, clear, realistic pictures. And of course they love rhymes. That's not to say your 2-year-old won't appreciate the stories her big brother chooses — who knows, Rocks and Minerals may end up being her favorite book. Just make sure she has access to simpler books as well.

Repeat, repeat, repeat
Stifle your yawns if you've read The Very Hungry Caterpillar every night for the past month and your child still asks to hear it again. Repetition is a hallmark of the toddler years. "The reason children love to read the same stories over and over and over again is that they're so thirsty to learn," says Leiderman. You'll soon find that your toddler has memorized her favorite passages and is eager to supply key phrases herself — both signs of increasing reading readiness.

Ham it up
Lose your inhibitions when you read to your child. Growl like the Papa Bear in Goldilocks, squeak like Piglet in Winnie-the-Pooh. Kids love drama as much as adults do — in fact, your youngster may love to pretend to be the scary wolf in The Three Little Pigs. Encourage her, even if it slows the story's progress. She'll get more out of the story if she's participating actively.

Follow her interests
Choose books about her favorite activities — visiting the zoo, swimming, playing ball. Back up your kids' favorite videos and TV shows with books about the characters. You may be mystified by the appeal of Teletubbies, but if your child loves the cheery little creatures, she'll love the books about their exploits as well. Follow her lead, but do experiment with a wide variety of books before you decide you know exactly what your child will like. Your little girl who loves dress-up and dolls may, to your surprise, also be the one who asks to hear Godzilla Likes to Roar or Monster Bugs over and over.

Go to the library
Even babies like library story-hours, and they're wonderful adventures for toddlers. Your child may well discover a new favorite when it's presented by a beguiling librarian with a soothing voice and perhaps some pictures or puppets to illustrate the action. And, of course, libraries let parents — and kids — try out countless stories without spending a bundle.

Push play
Many wonderful books exist on cassette or CD. Your toddler may not be interested in them because what she really likes about books is the interaction with you, says pediatrician Laura Jana, a national trainer for Reach Out and Read. But if your toddler does happen to like them, great. She may want to sit with the picture book while she listens to the recording, or you may want to put it on while the two of you do other things. You could also record yourself — or another relative or friend — reading stories. Just remember, says Jana, that recorded stories can't take the place of sitting down together.

Don't make books a reward
Don't tell your child she can listen to a story if she finishes her dinner. When reading is associated with systems of reward and punishment, it isn't a positive experience. Instead, pick times to read that feel natural, such as when you want your toddler to quiet down before her nap.

Dealing with the wigglers
Some wiggly youngsters just won't sit still through all of Blueberries for Sal. What to do? "Sit down and leaf through something short for just 30 seconds, and then say, 'Wow, we read this whole book!' Then let them go," says Leiderman. The next day you can try a little longer session. "Some children will always be more interested in motor activities than in reading," she says. "Respect that, and don't make reading a negative experience." If your toddler is the physically active type, she may respond best to the non-book-related activities described below.

Make storytelling a part of life
"Promoting reading readiness is more than reading a traditional book," says Leiderman. While you're at the dinner table or in the car, tell stories — standards like "Goldilocks and the Three Bears" anecdotes from your own childhood, or stories that feature your child as a central character. Make books of your child's drawings or favorite photos, and tell stories about them — or ask her to be the narrator.

Point out words everywhere
Wherever you go, you can show your child that words are an important part of everyday life. Even the youngest toddlers quickly learn, for example, that traffic signs say STOP. Alphabet refrigerator magnets are staples in many homes. Other families label objects around the house, such as the shelves that house BLOCKS, DOLLS, and other toys. If your child is in daycare or preschool, slip a daily note into her lunchbox. Even if she can't yet read CAT, seeing the word printed on a piece of paper, along with a drawing or sticker of a cute kitten, will be a high point in her day and help excite her interest in reading. If this seems too ambitious, try drawing a heart or smiley face with a simple "I love you," which will help get your toddler excited about the meaning behind words.

Children from families who converse at the dinner table have larger vocabularies, according to researchers at Harvard University. Talk with your toddler, and don't be afraid to use complex words and phrases. Encourage her questions and explanations. Toddlers are curious and wonder endlessly about the world, so don't be shy about trying to explore her interests with her.

Demonstrate your own love of books
Your child wants to imitate you. If she sees books all around the house and knows that you like to settle down with one whenever you have a moment to yourself, she'll learn that books are essential to daily life. Modeling your own love of reading is more powerful than making your child sit through a rigid story time.

Books for you
Numerous books have been written for parents who want to nourish a love of reading. Try Jim Trelease's The Read-Aloud Handbook, E.D. Hirsch's Books to Build On, Elizabeth Wilson's Books Children Love, and Bernice Cullinan's Read to Me: Raising Kids Who Love to Read.

POOTS: Im gonna do these things with her

Seems like i dont DO enough with her. I am sooo sleepy during the day. and i have taken advantage of the fact that Devin has her while i sleep after work. But it feels like im not really RAISING her the way i want. what i mean is. most of the day, shes walking around doing her thing, and im just keeping her out of harms way and keeping her form eatting stuff she aint got business. i forget that NOW she 1 and WAY more alert and attentive then she used to be. NOW is the time to START DOING things with her. Today, when i wake up, i will take her to the park around the corner from the house. and put her in the swings and stuff. Then we can come back and read our books. only thing im afraid of at the pak is that she'll put all the rocks and sand in her mouth or hurt herself on something. idk. she's been to the park before, but she couldnt walk and i just put her in the swing and pushed her. today imma take her down the slide if its not raining and stuff and swing with her if there are no baby swings. lmaoooo

How to Have Fun With Your 1 Year Old
By iwuvstaylin, eHow Member

Things You'll Need:
A baby (haha)
A stroller, or a car
A stereo
A good mood
A certain time of the day for this activity
Step 1 One of the easiest things you can do with your child is play with them. It keeps both of you happy. While he is playing with his toys, why not play with him? Having kids is just an excuse to play with all your old favorite toys anyway, right?? So have at it! Let go of your uptight adult mind. Have an imagination again.

Step 2 When you are cleaning the bathroom and baby is in the living room watching TV and starts missing you, open the door and let him in. Give him a rag and let him wipe at stuff with you! Don't let him get into those chemicals in the cleaning solutions though. And make sure all the dangerous stuff is out of reach!

Step 3 POTS AND PANS!!!! Kids LOVE Pots and Pans! Get em' out. Take a couple of wooden spoons and play away!! The funnest kinds of parents are the ones who are still children at heart.

Step 4 Work out! When baby is hogging the TV, tell him to scoot his couch potato butt and let you watch something. Put on your work-out video and watch as he tries to copy you. He will love it!

Step 5 BUBBLES! Kids love bubbles. You don't even have to buy bubbles from a store. Just take dish soap, and mix it with water (not too much, you still need to have enough soap in there to make bubbles). Take a bubble wand and blow away! He will love that too! Make sure you wash his hands afterwards, and don't do this on the carpet. Do it in the kitchen or outside.

Step 6 Speaking of outside, why are you spending all your time on the computer? (I should be talking, right?)
Take your kid for a walk. Go to the park. Go to a friend's house. Go shopping. Do something. As long as he has new stuff in front of his eyes and as long as you are moving, he will be content.

Step 7 Is your baby a little artist? I can't tell yet with mine, but he sure loves to get the colored pencils and crayons out. Get some scrap paper and let him experiment. He will understand soon enough what it all means, and soon he will want to actually draw, not scribble.

Step 8Chase your kid. Gosh, is there any kid in the world that doesn't love to get chased around the house? Make scary noises. Tickle him. Get that baby! And let him get you too!

Step 9 this is my son Watch movies with him. By now he's starting to recognize TV characters if he gets to watch the tube. My son loves Elmo. I just let him watch Elmo when I need my hands free, but I also watch it with him. I just let him sit in my lap and smell his hair. Babies smell so good! Yes, watching Elmo may be torture for you, but look at how much your son likes him!(This can go for any TV character that your kid likes, I just used Elmo as an example)

Step 10 There are endless things you can do with your child. For those who like to go all-out, schedule a day for the zoo! If you show your kids pictures of different animals and they seem intereted, then they will LOVE to go to the zoo! Be careful though, don't let them feed the Giraffes or goats! Wait a couple years for that.

Step 11 Read. Read. Read. Get books for your little one. Babies need one on one time with mommy/daddy. If your little one is impatient (like mine is), make it interesting by making the sound that the object or animal makes, make loud noises while pointing at stuff. He'll giggle.

Step 12 Put on your dancin' shoes and dance to you or your baby's favorite music! Sing! Even if your voice is terrible... do it. He won't care, and you don't have to impress anyone! Hold him while you dance, be hyper.

Step 13Try to teach your little one how to clean up. Once it's starting to get close to bed time, show him how to put his toys away so that all the cleaning up will be done BEFORE he falls asleep. My son has a big dump truck that I like to put the toys in and drive it to the toy box. Then we dump it all in there. He likes to help me, and it's a good thing, too!

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

HAIR: i decided to do my own Kinky Twists

i looooove them so much. but i dont have a camera right now so i'll post later. in a couple weeks i'll run to walkmart and pick one up. i used 2 1/2 packs of the burgandy kinky hair.

Just Writting

You know, when a women is PMS'ing it is REALLY a worping thing. and what i mean by worping is that it takes you through a loop, and really changes things. dont get me wrong. i LOVE being a women, and i dont HATE that we get our cycles and things, because with a cyle comes the ability to have beautiful babies. but i just wish it didnt have to hurt so damn bad. i mean, not only does it hurt physically, but your emotions are through the roof. well at least mine are.and it has been 10 x's worse since it came back after the baby. i enjoyed clear skin, and no mood swings for almost two years. but then...the inevitable. the best thing about not having my cycle for almost 2 years was that after my ENTIRE life (basically, starting at 11) of having bad skin from my cyles it was FINALLY starting to get clear. and now thats out the window.
when poots gets her first cycle i'll make sure to take good care of her. and ggive her a healthy view of it. so that she sees the beauty in it. and the happiness that can come from it. i just hope she doesnt have to endure the amount of pain i had to.
last week i was so PMS'y i didnt even want to do my bible reading. i am soo behind. but its the beginning of the month and i am moving on to EXODUS.

Monday, May 4, 2009

Answering A Few Questions

i was visiting another blog and i liked her questions so much i decided to answer them on my blog. the questions are from

whipped butters, natural hair care, bible reading, and writting

i really dont consider anything that i am currently passionate about "wierd". i would have to ask a close friend or Devin, because honestly, i cant answer that question. loooool. am i overthinking it? sorry.

a green knit cap and a REALLY CUTE pair or green earrings. i am kind of thrilled about both.

mmmmmmm ALLLL things CHOCOLATE! recently i have tasted mrs. paula's caramel brownies. and they are WONDERFUL!! i must say they are my dessert favorites

flowers in my hair, and dresses/ skirts, scarves, big jewelry