Monday, August 4, 2008

i found some interview questions i thought would be cool to answer

1.What are some of your goals with being a mother and what do you think that you will learn about yourself through motherhood?:

mmmm...so many goals with being a mother. especially a mother of a little girl. i first goal with her is to teach her about god. to teach her about the spiritual inheritance that she has. another goal that i have is to show her the world. well at least a few corners of it (Europe, Fiji, Asia, Africa, Hawaii) lol. I have so many goals i could rewrite them all. Just teaching her entegrity, how to demand respect and show it, perseverence, honesty. my goal is to become a great teacher. i think that she will teach me many things. she already has. such as patience, happiness, HOW to teach. how to sacrifice and not care. i could cry thinking of all the things she has taught me and the things i am ready to learn from her and motherhood.

Favorite affirmation or inspirational quote?

a freind and i had a conversation on religion. i was questioning many things about god and religion. and she said "i would rather be right and serving a god that isnt there, then wrong and NOT serving a god that is." That hit me pretty powerfully.along with the pretty common ones of Do unto others as u would have them do unto u.

If you could go back in the past and ask someone a question, who would it be and what would you ask?

i would ask Jesus what i need to do PERSONALLY in order to be the best servent of his father. in other words what/ who i need to elliminate from my life in order to please him and Jehovah. what/ who i need to include in order to do the same. like that u know?

What inspired you within your life to wear your hair natural, and would you say your lifestyle reflects a more natural way of living?

Well my inspiration STARTED while i was in high school. there two beautiful girl who were the best of friends and they were natural. one had locs and the other free afro type. it was so pretty. they were so pretty. also my senior year of high school my english teacher Mrs. Carry Blackman had lovely long locs. just a beautiful natural. this is when i first noticed my attraction to natural hair. but at that time i was afraid to do it. actually to be honest at that time i never even thought of it as something to do for ME. it was just a different hing. THen when i was about 19 i went throught the worst year of my life. everything that i knew and was (meaning the person that i had become) had completely turned itself on me. i needed a change and to feel pretty again. i needed to return to my basics. and thats what i did. i cut off all my hair and started fresh.and as the years went on i began to read an collect information and books on natural hair care. and in this i read about vegetarianism, organic/natural health care, and chemical free products (shea butter and black soap). i fell in love with it and wanted to incorporate it in all aspects of my life including my job

5 things every women should know about life

What Things Do You Think Every Woman Should Know About Life? Leave Your Inspiration by Commenting & Leaving your Life Tips!

You Cannot Do It All In One Day: There is such a thing as “over goaling”, and when we think that we can get 20 things on our list done in one day, then we are seriously fooling ourselves. When you are trying to plan out your tasks for the day, you must be honest and realistic in order for you to get that feeling of accomplishment. There is nothing worse than having tons of things on your list and only getting 2 of them done. Subconsciously this will make you feel as if you got nothing done. Instead of making one large list, break it down into a couple or a few for that matter. You will find that you feel a lot less overwhelmed.

Take Your Time: Enjoy The Process: It's Worth It: Rushing through life will cause lots of stress and you are sure to miss some beautiful things along the ride, and you are bound to come to more road blocks. So, just take your time with your life. It may have only taken nine months to be created, but it is going to take a heck of a lot longer to perfect, shape, and mold ourselves. When we are born, we are at that stage of an unfinished clay pot, you know, when it is at the stage of being shaped, molded, carved, and glazed, then it has to sit and dry for what seems to be forever, and it is not until it is put into extreme temperatures for a long time does it fully transform into a beautiful piece of art (this is the stage that I call life issues...LOL). It is not until it goes through high temperatures do you see what the glaze that you put on it while shaping it really looks like; so if you rushed and did not mold the clay properly before hand or if you tried to shorten the drying time, your pot will surely fall apart. This same thing goes for our lives...so, take your time...and enjoy the process!

You also have to learn and accept the heated process called life. We rush through things way too much and then we are left with the broken pieces laying in front us. Just enjoy the process of your life, and know that most of the time when your life gets “Hot” that it is only transforming you into a beautiful piece of art...a vessel that will be able to absorb or repel the waters of life, just like that of a clay pot. And just like a clay pot in the making, there is also a cooling process. I relate this to the fact that many times our lives can get really hot, you know, and we have to just provide stillness sometimes. You don't want to touch it, or move, it, just be still, listen to the clarity of the calmness, and watch and wait. Let things cool down before taking on the heat, or else you will get burned, and take the risk of the “pot” breaking! (but remember, there is beauty in starting over should this happen)

Me Time Is Essential: This has been discussed a lot here on ymib, so we probably all know this by now, however, it is important to define what me time is. It is not always a scene of relaxation and serenity, but could be anything that makes you feel better. Also, you do not have to have a full day or blocks of hours to fulfill your me time. You can take little breaks and do something that you like during the day. When I am supposed to be blogging or writing an article, or any other work related task, or teaching the little one, I often take 30 minute breaks and just look at decorating ideas, or sketch, then I go back to what I was doing. This also works well for all of those who are working on an outside project outside of your day job. Carry your journals and sketch books to work ladies! You can find me time just about anywhere...even in cleaning(a great self reflection time, and you get the reward of feeling good in your fresh abode:)

Just Have Fun: Lighten Up...Ladies, Don't Take This All So Serious! How many times have you totally stressed out about life and then when you look back on how you reacted, you were like “Man, I Totally Overreacted”. There will always be things within our life that tries and does throw us off our path, but you do not have to stress out about it. Stress & depression is one of the leading causes of death in women, especially Nubian women. So, Just have fun, because if you look real deep, you will see that the stressful times are where you learned the most, so smile at those moments, because you know the results will be eye opening in the end. I also highly recommend a childs spirit & laughter as a daily dose into your life. A child can find beauty, creativity, and fun in a toilet tissue roll, so why can't we find the same joy in the mundane. It is important for us to keep the spirit of a child...not the mentality...but the spirit. I still watch cartoons until this day! Find joy, beauty, and the possibilities in the mundane. You know it's funny, many times when we walk, we look straight forward, back, and from side to side, but how often do we look up. I have realized this on many of my walks. I discover things I never noticed before when I just "look up" to life! Do you get what I mean?

Cleanliness Is Next to Calmness: This one goes out to all the mothers especially, because it can get so hard to keep order and sanity together when you have little ones roaming to and fro getting into what seems to be everything. But, if you can manage to keep things in order, put things back, and keep everything cleaned, then you will be at least 95 percent assured that you will find yourself a lot calmer and less stressed. Instead of having one block of cleaning time, just break it up into mini cleanings through the day to avoid that tired and overwhelmed feeling! Nevertheless, whether you are a busy mom, or a single lady on the go, keeping your home, car, and workplace clean will offer you more times of clarity and sanity!

Well, that's about all for now. I hope this has inspired, I may have rambled a bit, but I hope it made sense in the end. I will try to post continuations in either articles or bites along the way

Welcome to the Sacred Women Circle

Sacred Woman Book Circle: February 1st – May 9th

I am so excited that we are all sharing this venture of becoming a “Sacred Woman” with each other. It's funny...one thing that stood out to me was that I saw many Sisters say that they have had “Sacred Woman” for quite some time, and maybe even years. I am also one of those who have had a crisp lavender book just sitting on the bookshelf for years...waiting to be explored. Then I thought, why is it that so many of us have had such a great tool for such a long time, yet we just didn't get around to reading it. Maybe it is the interaction that the book requires, I am not really sure, but every moment has its purpose and I feel that it is within this moment that I take and utilize the inspiration that Queen Afua has poured into her book. With all of that said, I welcome all of you to ymib's very first Book Circle! I hope that we can share, build, create, and inspire together through daily and weekly posts.

How To Use The Sacred Woman Book Circle: Even though there is a suggested schedule below that we can follow together, you can read at your own pace and post as much as you like in the relative Gateway/chapters. Use this forum to reflect and inspire on the current chapters & Gateways that you are currently in. I have pre-categorized separate topics that relate to each gateway 1-9 to keep it organized for future reference. So please only post to the relative gateway that we/you are reading. I will do my best to moderate any spam comments, yet if you should see one, please feel free to contact me and I will delete it as quickly as possible.

Posting Ideas: Post questions, pictures, resources that relate to each Gateway, personal experiences, & tips regarding Chapters & Gateways

Sacred Woman Book Circle Schedule & Activity Examples: below you will the weekly schedule for the book Circle. I have also included suggested activities to do, but definitely make each week your own according to what you have read!

Suggestions On How To Use “Sacred Woman” the Book: Many of us define our life differently so in my opinion, while Queen afua provides some very insightful regimens, recipes, and affirmations, I feel that it is important to make this book your own. Meaning you may not be comfortable or in agreement with everything she says or suggests doing, but it is VERY important to re-invent and use your creativity to come up with an alternative that fits your lifestyle while still getting the same results.

Book Circle Rules: There really are no serious rules, however please be sure to make any posts/replies directly to the “Sacred Woman” book circle...do not create another topic. This will keep our info and resources centrally located and easy to browse. Please only post to the relative gateway that we/you are reading.

Week One: pg. 1 – 20: Khamitic Nubian Philosophy: Write down your goals and expectations of all of the things that you would like to learn and gain from Sacred Woman and try to keep it in the back of your book or journal.

Week Two: pg. 21-42: The Sacred Womb: Set out a block of time to create your self a realistic schedule that you can at least stick to for at least one week if not long term.

Week Three: pg. 43-65: The Spirit of The Womb: This is the week of journaling and positive affirmations. Write, paint, or print positive words, affirmations, quotes, and passages and hang them up in a place that you will see them everyday. Try to do at least 3 of these and hang them up in three different rooms (ie. Bathroom, kitchen, bedroom).

Week Four: pg. 66-93: The Care of The Womb Part I: Create a food journal and try to stick to a healthy diet that fits your expectations, lifestyle and capabilities.

Week Five: pg. 94-120: The Care of The Womb Part II: Set out a period of time, at least fifteen minutes a day to sit and listen. Meditate and reflect with yourself. Use this week to dig deeper into a cleansing diet and try to purge as many unhealthy foods in your diet as possible.

Week Six: pg. 121-139: Commitment: Tap into your creativity and make yourself a personal size “Freedom Shawl”. This can be in the form of a robe, quilt, or wall-hanging. If you are not into sewing purchase a robe that you love in which you can also embellish to add character.

Week Seven: pg. 140-156: Gateway 1: Sacred Words: Recite your favorite affirmation/quote daily to physically affirm your power and positive state of mind.

Week Eight: pg. 157-180: Gateway 2: Sacred Foods: In The Kitchen! This week plan out your menu that is filled with new ingredients and products and create healthy dishes for your daily meals, including breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

Week Nine: pg. 181-212: Gateway 3: Sacred Movement: Enjoy the process of movement and give thanks for it. Exercise, Dance, and Play! Do yoga, especially if you have never tried it before...your body and spirit will love it all.

Week Ten: pg. 213-243: Gateway 4: Sacred Beauty: Pamper you body this week! Explore your beauty, clay masks, and natural beauty regimens. Create/buy at least one creative or new piece of garment to adorn your beauty with. We will also explore the art of waist-beads in preparation for the completion of “The Sacred Woman Book”!

Week Eleven: pg. 244-290: Gateways 5 & 6: Sacred Space: Spend this week beautifying and cleansing your home. Make it a peaceful, clutter-free and beautiful to the eye space to live fully in!

Week Twelve: pg. 291-317: Gateway 7: Relationships: Confront your issues and obstacles that you might have with your family and evaluate and reflect upon all of the responsibilities that you now hold, and make a list of what you like and what you do not like.

Week Thirteen: pg. 318-353: Gateway 8; Sacred Union: Evaluate your love. Spend some quiet time with your mate, do something special, and enjoy your union. If you are single, use this time to love yourself by surrounding yourself with those who you feel offer you pure love.

Week Fourteen: pg. 354-381: Gateway 9: Sacred Lotus: Completion! Project to be announced!

what i hope to learn & achieve: Sacred Women

There are many reasons of why I want to read Sacred Woman right now in my life. Here are a few of the things in which I hope to gain from this 14 week journey:

1. To gain and maintain a higher energy level as well as clarity of thought

2. To surround myself and my home with sacred words, beauty, and sacred communication and clarity through my writing and speech

3. To take the time for myself...I am having a really hard time at this one, however I can say that I feel as though the Book Circle is already helping because I set out a few moments a day to read.

4. To loose at least 15 to 20 pounds by the end of the 14th week (I've still got the baby weight from 4 years ago)

5. To learn more about herbal remedies and natural healing & incorporate them creatively in our home and diet.

6. To be more open with my feelings...I hold back a lot.

7. To do yoga often...at least 3 times a week.

8. To grow my creative spirit, and push my creative self to do so

9. To develop pure thought, wisdom, and communication with all of the Sisters that are joining us on the Sacred Woman journey.

10. To hopefully have lots of creative sparks that will ignite purposeful projects and ideas for the future!

So those are the most important things that I would like to achieve throughout the next 14 weeks...I am excited and nervous to see if I am in a different state of mind and weight by the end of it all. I figure if I speak it and share my goals with others, then I would be more likely to achieve them. Looking forward to hearing everyones commentary on what they have read or thought while reading the chapters and Gateways!

Meet You In The Circle

Saturday, August 2, 2008

My new Dell

so my new computer came in the mail today! WHOOOO!! i am so excited! it's so cool. so i will deffinately be blogging more, and all of this of course is with a view to starting school on line. i will be looking forward to doing this. lol.

Thinking about...

my past and the things that i have been through. i have a new co-worker and i used to date her son.lol. i am training her and we have been talking about past events and the such. i have told her how i desire to become a JW again. and she's encouraging. but what i have been thinking about these past few day is all the drama and such i have ben thrugh in my life. i cannot reemeber a time in my life when i just WAS. when a considerable amount of time passed w/o there being drama and for the past 4 years or so i have really held on to this. i have held on to drama and its ugly effects. letting it absorb into my being and then i sit back and wonder y it is i cant get ahead in my life. y it is i feel so unhappy and unfulfilled. my only sorce of happiness has really just recently come with poots. i am ready to let go! i am so tired of carrying bagage. so tired of of soooo much being on my plate. all this heaviness. all this heavy food, that takes too much for me to eat and complete. i am ready for alighter deal in life. ready to eat my fruit and veggies. i need this lighter change for the betterment of me and my family. especially my daughter. i am going to let go of all my bitter feelings about old friends and old events. this is good for me. good for my heart and soul. no more."NOOO MORE DRAMAAA!! GO HEAD GO HEAD!!" (sang like Mary J. Blige)lol

Friday, August 1, 2008

ok this is what i have found

i decided that i would like a career in natural/or ganic heath care, as a practitioner. i know that taking on-line classes is the best thing for me to do with poots being so young, gas, and all. i found a two reall cool on line schools :
1. University of Natural Heath www.unh-edu.org/
2.Clayton College of Natural Heath www.ccnh.edu/

I would get my Bachelors of science in natural health and healing. the price is perfect. about 5,000. i will be able to pay for that when i get my income taxes this year all in one clump. i really cant wait! i am so excited!!

so for right now i am focusing on three main goals:
1. Getting married
2. Meeting Attendence and reinstatment
3.Starting and finnishing school.

wish me the best i will be praying constantly!